…Faith and Commitment.

 Yes, this is tied to my previous post regarding marriage.

Faith that the person one’s going to marry is the right one, and commitment to stick to the decision to stay married, even if one finds out that the person wasn’t the right one.

HAHAHAHHA.

 OK that was meant to be a joke. A little.

 But I do think it takes faith and commitment. Faith because one can never be 100% sure, beyond the shadow of a doubt. Sure of the person, perhaps. But 100% sure? Perhaps not. It can be a stab in the dark in some grey areas…aspects that may not have been revealed to one before marriage. We evolve through time, we are never stagnant. Therefore, we can grow Together with our other half, or we can grow Apart from our other half.

And that’s where commitment comes in. Commitment to hold unwaveringly true to the decisions previously made, regardless of where the road may lead. We determine the path we walk on, and we determine how big the obstacles are.

And yet, I speak of something I do not know. Perhaps one day I will.

Yes, I am talking about the subject of marriage.

Every girl’s utopic dream?

 I beg to differ.

I cannot fathom the idea of spending my entire life from…what….30 years old till ‘death do us part’? Considering I am going to live till a ripe old age, that seems like a mighty long time.

(yes, I have a final year project presentation and an exam this week, and that’s why I’m thinking of completely unrelated issues)

I wonder how people do it. Year in, year out, month in, month out, day in, day out (I’m not considering the number of divorces around here, that’s a whole separate issue, I’m merely considering the fact that marriage is supposed to be a lifelong commitment, and once in, there’s no out –> that doesn’t sound right either, it sounds like I’m relegating marriage to be akin to the gallows, but again, that’s a whole separate issue).

I’m sure marriage ain’t a bed of roses. Ask anyone who’s married and they’ll tell you that. What makes them stay together then. Sometimes the answer is “love”, but mostly, the answer is “commitment”. Once you make a decision, you stand by it, “for richer, for poorer, till death do us part”.

 I guess when you know it, you know it. And once you’ve made the commitment, there’s no getting around it, you stick by it. Because no one is perfect, we all have to make do with one another’s flaws and failings, I think the main issue is whether the flaws of That person whom one plans to marry are tolerable. Or maybe the idea is Not to focus on the flaws but on the good stuff? Difficult, because flaws always get to you, whether you like it or not. Such is human nature.

So, Will one know, beyond the shadow of a doubt, that this is the person one wants to marry? Or does one bank on faith. Tough question, this.

I speak of something I do not yet know. And thus, I merely speculate.

I’ve mentioned ‘death’ and ‘gallows’ in this post a number of times. But marriage is a beautiful thing, no? =)

…when you wonder if some aspects are suitable, or if they’re not.

There is one thing I’m sure of in my life. And that’s the fact that I am NOT going to work until I’m old.

Retire young, because then you have the rest of your life to enjoy.

But adding to that, retire young such that you have more than enough to sustain your desired standard of living, help others, and spend more time with others close to you. And help others to get what they want as well.

We’ll never get what we want unless we change direction (well, unless what one really wants is to see one’s boss everyday, and worry that there isn’t enough money in the job, and there isn’t enough time to enjoy it). There’s so much more to life than just following what society does. Just because everyone does it doesn’t mean it’s right, isn’t it?

Dream big, and we can all go to the land of our dreams. Why diminish all those dreams we had when we were young just to incorporate reality? We could always expand that reality to fit our dreams instead.

Life has enough worries of its own. Why add monetary worries or worries of insufficient time with family or with friends to it?

 I have officially 2 weeks left in NTU. My my, does time fly.

And it is now time to step out into the real world. 2 years before my real world materialises, 2 weeks before the real world as everyone seems to know it materialises.

And the rest of my life to go.

=)